Experience Shows That Most Things In Life Are Grey, Not Black And White
Ros O'Connor • February 16, 2018
In the flush and exuberance of youth, our thinking often interprets our lives and what occurs around us as either right or wrong, positive or negative, black or white. There is a flash point of cognition and we instantly assign good or bad to the situation. Passion and outrage can drive our responses, without a lot of real thought about the situation, at least not in the short term. Long term thought processes may kick in after the initial catalyst has subsided but the initial rebellious outrage often wins through.
If life teaches us anything, it is that there is nearly always a grey area to any situation in which we may find ourselves. Circumstances need to be taken into consideration. A light needs to be shone on the perspective of others. Our thinking can be too quick to judge and often with hindsight we see the other viewpoint and realise that the conclusions that were formulated were a bit hasty.
Whilst the passion of our convictions is something that we, as a society, never want to lose, we do need to look at life from all angles and sometimes temper our outrage. The media is full of sensationalist headlines because that is what puts their business in the public eye. They feed the public with controversial headlines. Social media is a great communication tool but it can become a minefield when black and white thoughts are expressed without much consideration of the grey.
We all need to read the fine print so to speak, to really get the true picture and it is often not just a black or white argument. There is always a grey area that needs to be considered. How often have you wished that you could take back something you have said or written? If you had looked amongst the grey you may have reconsidered your actions. Sometimes, but not always, this will come with having lived on this planet long enough to know that there are always many points of view to any situation. Don't always run with the first one that sparks your outrage. Sit back and reflect awhile and think a bit deeper.
Maybe it's the old adage of 'you can't put an old head on young shoulders' or maybe the old head has never learnt the life lessons that come with so called maturity but as a society we need to be able to see all the different perspectives to an issue and see the grey in the world. Young or old or anything in between, we all need to see the grey.
Ros O'Connor
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Is your business in need of some serious rethinking and re-energising? Are you and your people getting the best result for their efforts? Maybe all you need is to really look at your people with a different perspective. Maybe they are not using their thinking to the best advantage because they are not being given the chance to do so in their role. We all approach our thinking from a different perspective. We all approach a task in a different way. Drop a group of people onto a deserted island and watch how all of them approach the survival issues. Some will analyse the situation and rationally and logically try to resolve the issues at hand. Others will set out to organise and structure the processes that need to be achieved for survival. Others will engage with everyone so that the group dynamic is working and not fracturing, whilst others will be thinking of different ways and concepts to move forward, survive and even thrive in the environment. All together, as a Whole Brain, they will work out a plan that will keep them alive. If they go off on their own, chances are they will struggle. Some of our biggest companies are going through turmoil in their boardrooms at the moment; aka AMP, CBA and so on. If they looked at the individual thinking perspectives of each board member, they may find that they don't have a diversity in their thinking, which has lead them down a path of an internal and external nightmare to say the least! Our mental defaults can lead to mental blind spots and as a result act as a roadblock to making the best balanced decision. Get in touch with me to unlock the thinking diversity in your business. Better teams and better results are what I can achieve for your organisation. Learn to better use the talents within your team, for better staff engagement, with inevitable better business success. Ros O'Connor ros@thinkingdna.com.au 0422 609 010 Thinking DNA - www.thinkingdna.com.au human capital and innovation are the source of all long term economic success
Fear is such a personal thing. What one person fears, someone else wouldn't give a second thought to. We do indeed set limits because of fear. If we fear something we don't want to do it or be put in a situation where it might happen. If that occurs, we panic. It can be paralysing. We become nervous, break out in a sweat and sometimes highly agitated. Depending on the type of fear, it can be quite debilitating and make life unbearable. I live in an area now that has a lot of beautiful parklands and waterways and along with that an extensive bike pathway system. Great, my husband said. We'll get you a bike and we can go for some lovely bike rides on the weekend. The trouble with that is I have never had a bike, even as a kid and never really learnt to ride one, not well anyway. I also as a kid had a bad accident on a bike on one of the rare occasions that I actually rode one. Soooo, I avoided ever riding one again. I had a fear, irrational as it may sound, of getting on a bike and riding it. Now I know most of you are thinking Whatttt!!! Has a fear of riding a bike!! I know, but there it is. Now, this however is the first step to overcoming this fear. Owning the fear. I have told the world here in this article what I fear and you know what? It sounds ridiculous. But fear is not rational. Our mind does things that we don't want it to but we can overcome them. There are all sorts of things that people are fearful of. Flying, crowded places, driving, dogs .... I could go on and on. Often the fear can be traced back to a certain time and place but ultimately to get past the fear we need to face it head on but at a pace that we are comfortable with and with the help of an encouraging friend as an enabler if possible. So tomorrow I am going to buy myself a bike (and a helmet) and get out there and start riding it. Familiarity is the thing that will get you past the fear and stop you being limited by that fear. Practice it. Do it over and over and over and over again. You will gradually get used to it. Some may take a short time, others much longer but eventually it will become something that you don't fear. And the sense of achievement will be something that will give you cause to pat yourself on the back. No one else will look twice but you will know and that's what matters. Face your fears. It's good for your soul. Ros O'Connor Thinking DNA - www.thinkingdna.com.au human capital and innovation are the source of all long term economic success
